Among other things I’ve been playing with in this world comes what is known as a ‘pick-up’ in the community. For those unaware, this is an act of approaching strangers on the street, clubs and pubs for the sole purpose of talking to them. What people do with this skill is up to them. For me it was a way to combat my fear of strangers, especially girls. So I set it up as one of my life goals to overcome this fear. In the process I realized how similar thinking processes actually are. It all comes down to the way you do it, be it the thinking aimed at coming up with the lines for picking-up girls or coming up with the ideas for your new business venture.
I am sure you have been fascinated by the ease with which experienced guys come up and talk to people they don’t even know. How they do it? Read further to find out.
10% in life is what happens to us, 90% is what we think about it.
If we break down the pick-up process, it consists of two major roadblocks you need to find a way around. The first one is natural anxiety of approaching strangers; the second one is knowing what to say to them. Once you overcome approach anxiety, which is again something in your brain, the next thing you need to do is to somehow learn to come up with what to say to a stranger you haven’t met before. The thing you say needs to be interesting and natural. There are plenty of pick-up lines on the internet, but personally, I have not used any of those for the reason of sounding unnatural. I would not say such things on my own; even if I did, I would not have an idea how to lead the conversation from that point.
So, how you come up with lines that sound natural and fit you?
That’s where you resort to hidden powers of your brain which you might not be aware of before. This is the same institution that brings you ideas when you think, you now simply use it to help you come up with what to say in a particular situation. To make this happen, throw yourself into the situation, a public place with lots of people you intend to talk to, let your mind adjust and then just go for it: approach strangers with the first opener that appears in your mind, simply trust yourself. You will notice that after a few tries your mind will start giving you more and more ideas, sometimes several for the same situation so you will even get to choose between them. You will be amazed how good they are as they perfectly fit the situation, match the girl you are about to engage into conversation and, more importantly, they are uniquely yours, which means you will have no trouble continuing the conversation.
Want to get more out of your brain than just pick-up lines?
I recommend reading Napoleon Hill ‘Think And Grow Rich’ for the explanation why the brain works the way it does and how you can harness its powers. The author doesn’t mention pick-up because it is a child’s play in comparison to the other things you can achieve in life using the same principle I described in this article once you get a hang of controlling your brain to make it work toward achieving achieving your goals.